Episode 23

What Happens When an Uplifter Takes Care of Herself First

"Everybody says you gotta fill up your cup so that you can pour into others. I decided this year I'm gonna fill the cup, I'm gonna drink from it, and then whatever spills over is what I will give to others. Instead of just giving to everyone else and saving the leftovers for me, this time I'm taking the cup for myself. I still wanna give, but I get to go first this time."

When Tamecka Murray was 15 years old she had her first child. She has been taking care of other people every minute since.  When her youngest child turned 21 and the pandemic hit, she realized that she needed to know what it felt like to just take care of herself.  So, she left a happy home and loving relationship with her fiance and got her own apartment.  

From the moment she decided to leave, she made every decision with careful attention to her needs. She improved her credit, to give herself the financial freedom she needed first. She thought about what she’d do if she were free to live every day exactly as she wanted, and chose a home that was ideally suited to support her vision. She poured love into her body, mind, and spirit, just like she had for everyone else. 

"I walked in here with absolutely nothing. It was like, okay, I'm gonna be eating Oodles of noodles for a year. Almost three years later, this was one of the best gifts that I have given myself as an adult, I wouldn't change anything about it. Even the moments of being scared. But I allowed myself to feel each emotion. I processed the emotion when it came up, It was just me deciding to pour into myself because it was a desire that I had to just take care of Tamecka, not Tamecka and her three children, not Tamecka and her partner. It was a decision about Tamecka and Tamecka alone."

Fueled by her newfound energy and the loss of a dear friend, Tamecka has started an events company called I am My Sista that brings women and girls together for transformative experiences.

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • [00:9:00] How to be your best companion.

  • [00:10:00] How to find energy and motivation by celebrating life’s little wins and milestones - and how your words impact your perception of success.

  • [00:22:00] How to fill up your cup so you can pour into others.

  • [00:30:00] How to be a truly accepting friend.

Learn more about Tamecka on Instagram at IAmMySista_llc. 

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Aransas Savas CPC, ELI-MP, is a veteran Wellbeing and Leadership Coach, certified by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching and The International Coaching Federation.
She has spent her career at the intersection of research, behavior change, coaching, and experience strategy. She has created a uniquely holistic and proven approach to coaching that blends practical, science-backed techniques with energy coaching.

She has partnered with customer experience strategists, at companies like Weight Watchers, Best Buy, Truist, Edward Jones, US Bank, and many more, to apply the power of coaching and behavior change science to guide customers on meaningful, and often, transformative, journeys.
As a facilitator on a mission to democratize wellbeing, she has coached thousands of group sessions teaching participants across socio-economic levels to leverage the wellbeing techniques once reserved for the wellness elite.

Aransas is the founder of LiveUp Daily, a coaching community for uplifting women who grow and thrive by building their dreams together.
Based in Brooklyn, Aransas is a 20-time marathoner, a news wife, and mother to a 200-year old sourdough culture, a fluffy pup and two spirited, creative girls.